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Logo Oluwamuyiwa’s Monochrome Lagos.

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Even if it is a window in a “danfo” bus, or an old lady standing in an old building, or a house with many air conditioners. Every mundane subject looks to have a story to tell in Logo Oluwanimuyiwa’s ongoing project: Monochrome Lagos.

Source: monochromelagos.com

Before making this series, Logo asked “if I strip Lagos of it’s colour what will i find?”. This was the question that inspired this masterpiece.



Logo never reduces what he sees, but, somehow increases both the momentous and the trivial, A picture less of a moment than of a place and time. Happy school children, a girl walking home from church, a man smoking a cigarette -each photograph is laced with untold stories.



You feel their stress, their weight along with the heat of the day, the stale air-conditioned chill of the room, the smell of smoke, the alcohol and sweat from the men.

Logo’s Lagos is dull, it looks ordinary, it has a compositional blankness, it has no colour and relies much on contrast.

These aren’t flaws, these are it’s strength. A quieter Lagos isn’t a bad idea.

Logo’s work pays close attention to architectural forms, shapes and lines.

His photographs displays the innocence of Lagos. Showing places one can find serenity and calm in the very populated and busy city.



Lines

Patterns

Forms

Fashion

Potraits

Films.


more info on Logo’s work can be found here.

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Masquerade Series

   –  I’m unapologetic-ally African
  This piece is about the black man and finding beauty within ourselves. As black people in today’s social media telling us what is beautiful and what is not, we are left to find our own beauty. In this piece, the model is almost naked and covered with white paint using African patterns. This is to symbolize that our beauty is not just physical but from the African within us.
Credits: Photography by: Jessica Nwabuike @iamafrique
Model: Omabuwa Dede @buwalegend
Body art by: @titanium_arts
Assisted by: @ririkayhhh
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LoveLemons Conversations With Hajarat Jose

Hands buried deep in an oversized denim jacket as we walked down the streets on the gloomiest and coldest of Sundays, 21-year-old Hajarat kept us warm with her light-hearted humour and vibrant personality- even though we could tell she was freezing her toes off. We arrived at our destination, a carpark adorned by graffiti painted walls. Hajarat had not hesitation about getting into her role, never one to be shy in front of a camera and always eager to reverse roles by being her photographer’s hypeman. I found it quite amusing because earlier in the day she had been nervous about the interview. When asked to introduce herself- starting off light to ease our way into the conversation, she had laughed nervously and said ‘but you know my name now,’ before continuing:

“I’m Hajarat, and I’m almost 22. Since we are talking about love today, you might say I’m too young to be experienced on the subject, but I don’t think you can base knowledge of the subject on age. However, I would say I am sufficient to give you my views on this topic. Oh yeah, and I blog also.”

Hajarat runs an Instagram blog page called @VibingWithHajjo, which is a fashion and lifestyle blog that spans from lookbooks to food recipes- a reflection of a personality that is not one-dimensional, but versatile. One would describe her as goofy, bubbly, adventurous and a go-getter. “I’m not saying I am the best at anything I do, but I like to try. So at least, I make a bit of effort to do everything or as many things as possible,” she said.

Hajarat gives off the vibe of a hopeful romantic who sees ‘ride or die’ as not just some cooked up fantasy, but a reality. Read on as she talks about fate, loyalty, self-love and long distance relationships.

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On love and self-love

Me: You already started off by talking about love, so what exactly does it mean to you? How important is it and how best do you express it?

HJ: Yeah, I believe everyone should be able to experience love. I think that’s why we are built- human beings are made to love. Love is excessively important. I feel like everyone in this world, wherever we are or whoever we are, we need someone. I think love is about being able to give someone, or anyone- doesn’t have to be your partner- the best treatment you would want to be given to you. This could be relationship-wise, love of a mother to a child, or love given to a beggar on the street. It is just how you would generally want to be treated as a person, and that’s how I feel love should be expressed to people. Also, you gave an example earlier of gift-giving and I don’t feel like love can be quantified. Yeah, gifts are nice and I understand it shows how much I like you, but that does not necessarily mean anything to me; anyone can buy anything for anyone. As a person, I am really emotional, so I would do anything to please somebody (more like an act of service) to you. This is how I express love: I will give you my all; my love is always going to be consistent, so the question is, is yours? Is your love going to be there as much as mine? I will always be there for you, as long as you allow me.

Me: So basically, you think you have to love yourself before anyone else?

HJ: Self-love is something one has to develop as it comes with many features. It comes with knowing yourself and your worth, and also it helps in building the confidence generally needed to enter into a relationship, in the sense that you know exactly who you are and would not want to change that for anyone. Then, your partner accepts you with all your good, and bad, and you both grow together. It is necessary for a strong, healthy relationship. If you don’t love yourself, how in hell are you gonna love somebody else (RuPaul). Sometimes people get into relationships at rather early ages and they are so used to being with other people, they actually don’t know how to be individuals anymore. Sometimes, you just need to be alone for a while to learn to accept that you won’t actually die if no one loves you because loving yourself is sufficient for you. You would then find yourself growing into better versions of yourself, discovering things that you like, rather than ‘we’. There is nothing wrong with being in a relationship, but being able to accept that you don’t have anyone when single and loving life regardless is where I think self-love can be built. People may have different views but I speak from my own experience on the subject because after I broke up with someone, calling him Mr. Grey, I was horrible. I was just shit, shit, shit. Now, I am in a better place and we still love each other but we just understand that now is not the time. We both need to grow as separate entities, make it separately to give each other better lives. I am not God, and I don’t have eyes to see the future, but I know that him giving us this space between us might have been hard, but it has also been good. I think I’ve grown to love him more in correspondence to loving myself.

This is a popular and often true saying. It also stems from the greatest biblical commandment where Jesus ordered us to love one another as we love ourselves. Furthermore, the popular adage of treating everyone like how you would like to be treated lays the concrete foundation of Hajarat’s point. Here, we also find ourselves being introduced to Mr. Grey, a character we should not be forgetting too soon.

I will give you my all, my love is always going to be consistent so the question is, is yours?

On the relationship that changed everything

Me: What was your first serious relationship?

HJ: I don’t think my high school relationship can be considered as serious. I mean, we are still cool and we reach out to each other once in a while. The relationship lasted for 2 years and he was way, way older and that might sound serious but that was high school, so it was cool. But seriously speaking, the relationship I remember and rate to the max incomparable with any other relationship, is with someone I met in early 2012, Mr. Grey.

Upon asking how they met and first impressions, she sighed and laughed, saying it was a long story but nonetheless, It was one I was eager to hear. 

HJ: He was at my uni and I noticed he always stared at me, so there was always this uncomfortable eye contact. One day, he finally walked up to me and it was one of those moments when you feel like you instantly click with someone. That is the most cliche sentence I have ever made, but it was literally one of those moments you meet someone and realize that this person’s cousin and your sister happen to have been best friends in Uni, your brothers are birthday mates and they actually went to the same school. It was like we knew each other already and we were just destined to meet, have that conversation, and grow into what we have been today. Hopefully, we get to grow more.

Me: So would you say it was love at first sight?

HJ: Hmm, kind of but I would say best-friendship at first sight. I didn’t think I was going to fall in love with him the minute I met him, but I gradually fell in love with him. He was just someone that I wanted to get to know. He was just good company, and I liked him as a person and just wanted to vibe with him and make him my friend. After a while, I was not seeing him as much in Uni and when I was about to start my exams (he was doing the university’s foundation programme at the time), I remember seeing him again and he looked so raggedy. I think he was drunk and I noticed he was trying to avoid me. He eventually took my phone number and would call me everyday and night. We had competitions on the first person to fall asleep. We learned to know each other and that was how we fell in love.

Midnight calls, late night texts and campus rendezvous sound like the cliche, thrilling love story accustomed to our youth but their story takes an unexpected turn, which Hajarat reveals to us on asking where they are now. “It’s complicated” she laughs. 

HJ: At the beginning of 2014, I left for the UK, changed universities because of university strikes and he went to the U.S as well. So we are now living in two different continents. Well, it is not actually complicated. I think we are at a point where we’ve not been able to make the relationship work because of distance, but we are not pretending to be unaware of the feelings we have for each other. We know we love each other, but we can’t be physically there for one another right now. Everything is normal, besides the label and we are not pressuring each other because, to be honest, who label help? I don’t really care for being his girlfriend or him being my boyfriend, I could be anyone’s girlfriend right now. I am just happy we are still in each other’s lives; because of this distance, we’ve grown closer, rather than apart.

Me: So that means you have a positive feeling towards long distance relationships based on your experience?

HJ: I don’t think people can’t do distance. If you want to make it work, you can make it work.  I haven’t seen him in 3 years, but I still feel closer to him than anyone else. He is my guy and I love him, but I’m not there physically and there’s nothing I can do about it.

Even though this was a summary of knowing someone for about six years, it still feels like a lot to take in in five minutes. One can only imagine how tough the shift to long distance was on both parties. Sadness looms over us like it is guilty of unspoken words and memories of a different time.

HJ: The best times where when we still used to see each other every day, it was cool and fun. But the worst times were definitely last year because we had to break up, but also had to be in each other’s lives every day, so it was hard moving on from that. You can’t really move on if that person is still in your life every day. Now, we are at a point where we know there is distance between us and even if we overcome it and it still doesn’t work out, we are okay with that, so long as we are both happy with our respective lives.

Me: Is there anything you would take back or do better?

HJ: I believe we are both growing adults and we are bound to make mistakes, so it’s a learning process. I don’t have anything I would like to take back and I am actually grateful that we have our flaws; flaws we can correct and become better people. If not for them, we would not be better versions of ourselves today, so I am kind of glad that they exist.

On lessons learnt, trust and soulmates. 

HJ: I don’t think you can have a relationship without an existing friendship. I have to be your friend. I want to be comfortable as possible with you, I want to be able to remove my wig in front of you; I don’t have time to form for a man. It is really essential.

Me: So what are your key lessons and take-aways from past relationships?

HJ: Ah, suru! SURU LERE. Patience is a very important virtue because who has gra-gra really helped? You have to exercise patience and try to listen to the other person because, to be honest, you might be at a point where you’re feeling a certain type of way about an issue you never expressed how it made you feel to the person. You go around with this different idea of what the other person has done in your head, even though there are always two different sides to the story. See, he might have done something but he didn’t mean to do it in that way; obviously, he loves me so he wouldn’t mean to hurt my feelings on purpose. Communication is very key and you should always feel comfortable speaking to your partner. At the end of the day, if you don’t speak to him about how he made you feel, so what exactly are you guys doing? I should be able to tell you that you fucked up. I mean, I’m here for you and I will support you, but you fucked up.

Also, you have to trust each other. People will always fuck up, but always be prepared to move past it because that’s the only way you can build trust. If you keep holding on to the shit someone did in the past, you guys will never move forward. I’ve had my own fair share of lies, betrayal and all that, but I always give a fresh slate. So whenever something is done to me, I always get shocked and that’s because I still trust you. Trust is really important.

Me: I saw this question online but if you were to pick one between love and trust, would you pick trust over love?

HJ: No, I would pick love because with love comes trust. They come hand in hand with each other. Yeah, I could trust you but that does not necessarily mean I love or am in love with you.

ME: Do you believe you should compromise?

HJ: What exactly does that mean? Well, you guys are two entirely different people and would definitely never always agree on the same virtues in life, but as long as it is towards a good cause (i.e. you are not asking me to steal, kill or destroy) then yeah, compromise.

Often I have battled this question with my friends where we discuss this idea of soulmates beaten into our heads from birth. Some of us have unlearned the idea completely while others, like me, still hold on to it because  we believe it is a product of fate where everything is predestined. The argument against the idea is- it is a social construct, and in a world of over 7 billion people, it is absurd for only one person to  be destined for you and that person just happens to be in your city. I decided to put this question forward to Hajarat. 

Me: Do you believe in the idea of soulmates?

HJ: That question is a bit weird, and I think it is because the word ‘soulmate’ makes it sound weird. but I definitely believe people are destined to be with each other.

Me: So you believe you can only have one soulmate in your entire life?

HJ: Yes, I believe so. I believe as young, growing adults we get to a certain point in life where we feel like we need someone. We get someone and like the idea of having them in our lives, but when it comes to the real deal- settling and working on a relationship, you realise you only liked the idea of, comfort and companionship that comes with that person. You are not necessarily in love with that person, like if that person was dying right now, would you actually give that person a kidney? There are only a few people, or just one person that we can make those type of sacrifices for in life. I would like to believe that the person is either my soulmate or my mother, the person that gave me life. There’s only so far we can bend our backs for people and I believe it only comes with the person that gave you life or the person that would be there for the process of bringing another to life.

Me: So you can’t love more than one person at a time?

HJ: I definitely can’t love more than one person at a time. I definitely don’t think I can love more than one person at all. Over time, I realised I didn’t actually love all those people. I only liked them or the idea of having them and their companionship in my life at that time; It was good but it wasn’t that lit, to be honest.

Visit Hajarat’s instablog herehttp://instagram.com/vibingwithhajjo

 

Photo Credit: Dami Ayo-Vaughan and Lamide O-Bello.

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ASA

ASA

The argument of equality among genders has been a long dialectic, many trying to uncover the truth, oftentimes misinterpreting facts and bringing up new ideologies.

In my objective thought, there was and probably never will be anything such as equality among genders.
The inevitable is the question of whether due to women’s uniqueness and overwhelming purpose they have come to par with God’s premier creation; being man.
But you can’t fail to acknowledge the strength and immeasurable value women possess. The character, power, grace and beauty of a woman.
The question now is; should women be treated or regarded as inferior? Or should be assumed to be equal with men?
Funmilayo Ransome Kuti
The first woman to drive a car in Nigeria.
Being as the “Mother of Africa”, you can’t deny the strength found in a woman, an African Woman and her ability to invigorate.
These have been framed; as a call for an anti-sexist assessment.
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Get To Know Andikan + ColourSync

Colours could be characterised as a human visual perception. Have you ever wondered how the earth would be if it had no colour boring yeah? Very boring. Colours add life into everything even inanimate objects. Our eyes have the ability to distinguish different colours. Colours are so wonderful that it being splashed on different forms of objects is seen as art.

“Color is art Art is color and Art is life, so live on guys”  Andikan

Muse 1 – Emma (Instagram: bolshevikbabe)

Muse 2 – Aditya (Instagram : iadieeag)

Photographer – Oluwapelumi ‘Andikan’ Edwin

Quick chat with Oluwapelumi ‘Andikan’ Edwin, an upcoming Lagos and Dubai-based photographer.

Tomisin for LL: Hello! Tell us a little bit about you

Andikan: My name is Oluwapelumi ‘Andikan’ Edwin, I am 19 years old. My favourite food is Jollof rice gizdodo and chicken if you wanna make me happy get me that. I am still in school just waiting to be out so I can go all out on my photography.

LL: What’s with the name ‘Andikan’?

Andikan: It is gotten from my middle-name is Andikanabasi and that is the only way to let people know I’m Akwa-Ibom, repping my father’s land. It means ‘Victory of God’.

LL: What or who got you started in photography?

Andikan: I would say Picasa, loved playing with Picasa that year, and my mum just got a point and shoot camera for her business which I used more often than her until she bought my first semi-DSLR camera.

LL: How would you describe your style?

Andikan: To be very honest I am still discovering my style, but I’m trying to build a new style which has a little bit of urban and African vibes.

LL: What type of cameras do you shoot with?

Andikan: I shoot with a canon 700d and my phone sometimes, I’m looking for someone to bless my life with canon 5d. Anyone?

LL: What gives you ideas and inspires you to create such great imagery?

Andikan: Basically everything around me and my feelings, I give God the glory.

LL: What motivates you to continue taking pictures – economically, politically, intellectually or emotionally?

Andikan: Haha money and great vibes most definitely! I try to show that I’m a genius sometimes.

LL: If not a designer, I would have liked to be a psychologist studying the human interaction. What would you have been?

Andikan: Footballer, but not fit enough.

LL: Lol, I hear that! What has been your most memorable shoot and why?

Andikan: Hm the shoot for Bris B’s Fatima video-shoot due to the reasons behind the shoot and what happened before we actually got to shoot at the major location we were actually not allowed in that environment but we were ready to break rules.

LL: A photographer(s) who inspires you?

Andikan: Sunmi Smart-Cole, TY Bello, Rog Walker and Slick Jackson.

LL: What do you think of the photography industry in Nigeria at the moment and where do you see it in 5years from now?

Andikan: I feel it is getting better but not the best, but I hope to inspire many more photographers to be better so that we are the best soon enough.

LL: If someone said ‘How can I be the next Andikan?’ What would you say?

Andikan: Be you, that’s just the best being you, you might just be better than Andikan.

LL: Is there anybody or anything you would love to photograph?

Andikan: Asa and the location – Hong Kong! I LOVE her music so much!

LL: Thanks for your time, looking forward to all your upcoming work!

 

Our readers can find out more about you…

Twitter: andikan_

Instagram: andikan_

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‘Back Around’ – Thompson S. Ekong

Back Around is a visual series exploring the value of music, heritage and youthful culture.
The series is circled around Skepta performing at a music festival in his home country Nigeria.
The images curated in this series bring out emotions of a mind who’s had to pursue his dream away from home due to lack of structures. While away from home, he becomes an icon in another’s man land upon his return home the culture of new age Africa has grown, and limitations didn’t allow him to grow at home have been established for him to shine.
It’s profound as new age Africa takes shape, it’s a call to Africans all over, a pride raging across every African as we’re a global voice.

“Being here put me in a different state.
The atmosphere was unique, it felt like sounds of people who were happy of all they’ve accomplished.
Capturing these images were perfect reflections of the strength in our consciousness.
Africans everywhere have fought years of mistakes, we’ve undergone so much yet we still kept on going, kept on believing.
Our skins never seemed to fade away from history.
To the skins close to our outside, they couldn’t be more proud that home has begun to shine.
It’s been long coming, some called it out homecoming.
A time where we need not leave our boarders to seek dreams or joy.
Grown, we’ve grown enough to own our presence in the world.
History taking notes of our ethos.
The culture is is priceless, we are the profit.
These moments the kids of the future reunite with their heroes all happening in your environment, in your Africa, are prophecies to our New Age.

Thompson S. Ekong

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Ayo Busari presents: Light Painting

The light shines bright
It illuminates what it touches
People are so used to it
They forget to appreciate the beauty of light
I illuminate
I turn the light to paintings
I do so without paint brushes and a pallet
I will awaken your mind to new world wonders.

 

 

CREDITS:
Painter – Niyi Busari

Poet – Slow_Zeus
Photographer – Ayo Busari

Creative Director – theAyoBusari

SOCIAL MEDIA:-
Twitter – @theayobusari @slow_zeus @Niiyih @hayorb

Instagram – @theayobusari @niyi_busari @slow_zeus @lifeofmohams

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Adulting with Natalie Carroll, Maddy Johnston and Vanessa Makuve.

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AVD: Tiredness, responsibility and pressure. What do these means for you in terms of you becoming an adult?

NC: There’s an increase in everything

MJ: Yeah, the pressure is just more once you realise that next year we’ll all be in university and there’s no security blanket keeping you safe anymore. The responsibility of university is looming ahead as everyone is submitting and receiving university applications. It’s draining.

VM: I think that there are things that always exist but in childhood they’re a bit more contained and controlled but when you reach adulthood, they take on a life of their own and you have to learn how to control them yourself. It’s pretty scary.

AVD: What do you enjoy about being an adult?

NC: Making my own decisions, then if it goes wrong it’s on me, there is no one else to blame.

MJ: Being taken more seriously. I’m a 5ft small girl. I’ve experienced events that have matured me as a person and when you say you’re 18, more people seem actually listen to your views and values.

VM: Being able to make reasoned and informed decisions and being able to validate your opinions as people take you seriously.

img_4669Friends are one of the most important parts of your life. The memories you make during the time period are something that will last forever and will have a huge impact on your situation now. It’s great to have people who you know have your back, but you also need to value yourself and your opinions. In the end, it’s your life and you shouldn’t be persuaded to make choices solely on other people’s opinions.

AVD: With the events of this year, Brexit and Trump winning the US election, are you scared about becoming an adult in this new emerging world?

 

VM: Obviously but I’m more scared about my own personal position in the world. Am I becoming increasingly more disadvantaged? There’s a lot I want to do in the world and I don’t want that to be extinguished by the events of the world going on.

MJ: It’s ridiculously surreal that we live in a world where people have voted for Trump as President. And for Brexit to have occurred when the younger generation (who it will affect the most), didn’t want it. But being scared isn’t going to fix anything. I’m taking all the opportunities I can. For example I’m going inter railing next summer before the consequences of Brexit do hit us all.

NC: I guess I’m scared for the wider pattern that humanity will be following as it is seemingly anti-world peace and increasingly more exclusive rather than inclusive. It’s okay for us now because we’re all shocked and appalled by this, we think this it’s wrong, but for people younger than us, they won’t have the then and the now. They’re not going to have that comparison of the different values. It’s not just scary, it makes you realise how grateful you are for your own situation. For example, being privileged, going to a good school you have more opportunities to better yourself or make your own opinion rather than being influenced by the general trends. You’re better informed to make your own decisions.

AVD: How important a role do you think your friends play in your becoming an adult?

 

VM: I think that friends play a pivotal role in you becoming an adult. Their quirks and their tendencies can rub off on you and their advice can help you in making important life decisions. They’re like pillars of moral support and you need that during the changes you’re going through.

MJ: Friends are one of the most important parts of your life. The memories you make during the time period are something that will last forever and will have a huge impact on your situation now. It’s great to have people who you know have your back, but you also need to value yourself and your opinions. In the end, it’s your life and you shouldn’t be persuaded to make choices solely on other people’s opinions.

NC: I think friends are especially important when you’re going through change as you are going through similar experiences so they’re really able to support you but then they can still be your friends if they have differing opinions. If they give you advice, you don’t have to take it or feel guilty for not taking it

AVD: So for you then friends are a key part of adulating but there has to be a line. One has to have their individual thoughts and opinions and it should be supplemented by that of friends rather than supplanted by it?

 

MJ: Yes definitely, it’s so important that you value yourself and your opinions. And the situation we’re in, we have the knowledge and capability to have an informed opinion, that you can truly believe in.

VM: Yeah they don’t make your decisions for you but they are important in helping you make them.

NC: Yeah but I guess you choose who you are friends with and who you want to spend your with time,  so that is naturally going to alter where you draw that “line”

 AVD: If you could go back in time and give younger you advice on becoming an adult what advice would you give?

 

MJ: I would say, stand up for what you believe in. It may seem really scary and difficult at the time but you will regret what you didn’t say. Believe in yourself, because you are probably making the right decision and if it’s not then you will learn from your mistakes. It’s important to value yourself, especially in a relationship. But all those mistakes you make, make you a better person for overcoming them. You deserve to be happy, but your happiness doesn’t depend on anyone but yourself.

VM: That if you feel like doing something that’s against the status quo that you go for it. Because when you’re younger you’re quite encouraged, you feel like it’s a necessity to fit in with your friends but I think that’s part of adulthood, embracing the differences between people and this can bring people together. And to go for opportunities if you get them even if not everybody is doing it.

 NC: I would say to my younger self, to give less fucks. Because it doesn’t matter if you don’t agree with what everyone says, it doesn’t matter if someone doesn’t like your makeup or what you’re wearing or just because you don’t agree with what people are saying, doesn’t mean that you’re beliefs and opinions are less valuable.
img_4628Because when you’re younger you’re quite encouraged, you feel like it’s a necessity to fit in with your friends but I think that’s part of adulthood, embracing the differences between people and this can bring people together.
AVD: Thank you so much for your time.
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Adulting with Moyo Adio

Adulting is a highly personal experience, yet the effects of it are hardly ever limited to the individual experiencing it. It spills over, to our family, friends, and sometimes those we least expect it to. This is something that played on my mind when I decided to interview Moyo Adio. “I wouldn’t say I’m the best person for this”, says Moyo, “don’t think many people will gain much from my ‘adulting’ process.” “Let the readers be the judge of that.” I reply.

AVD: Tiredness, responsibility, pressure. What do these means for you in terms of you becoming an adult?

MA: Tiredness, definitely. When I was younger I didn’t have access to stuff like social media and the stuff, so I didn’t have much to do so I didn’t lose that much energy, but now social media, and we didn’t have that many hours of school, it was just to come back from school with little or no assignments, but now you need to use your head, you need to use everything (he laughs). I also feel like you have more responsibilities, more expectations to live up to, with going to university and all that.

AVD: A common theme in all those things for you seems to be school. Do you feel like school seems to capture all those 3 things?

MA: Yeah living up to your expectations, you know you want to be somewhere at a particular point in your life, or you know what you want to achieve and school is a big factor in all of that.

AVD: In terms of where you are in your life, with university applications, how do you feel about that?

MA: Well, the universities I applied to I’m quite sure that I should get a conditional offer but that’s not the end, I still have to work hard to meet the certain requirements, which is not going to come easy, I have to study hard for them, and that increased the pressure on me and the pressure my parents put on me, and the expectations people have for me. I have a lot of people looking up to me that I can’t let down. I have two younger sisters and it won’t be good for me to lay a really bad foundation for them, I don’t want to set a bad example for them. I want to encourage them to know that even though A-Levels are hard you can still do it and still come out successfully.

AVD: So for you then a big part of becoming an adult involves you having to control your image, and try to be a role model?

MA: Yes, that is another part of the pressure. You also have to be a good role model to people looking up to you, especially your siblings, so they don’t go through the wrong path.

img_4897I have a lot of people looking up to me that I can’t let down. I have two younger sisters and it won’t be good for me to lay a really bad foundation for them. I don’t want to set a bad example for them. I want to encourage them to know that even though A-Levels are hard you can still do it and still come out successfully.

AVD: You spoke about social life, what you think about that in terms of becoming an adult for you?

MA: Obviously you have to have a social life. No man is an island. (He laughs) You need people, you can’t just be on your own. You never know what you will need somebody for, so have to have a social life. All work and no play make Jack a dull boy. (He muses)

AVD: What do you enjoy abut becoming an adult?

MA: Well I feel like I’m closer to achieving my dream.

AVD: What’s your dream?

MA: To become an investment banker in a top investment bank in the UK, and partner by maybe 45. I enjoy the freedom, obviously, and being able to make my own decisions and people not making my own decision for me like before where my parents would have to make decisions for me, but now I feel like I have more free will to do whatever I feel is right for me. So, whatever happens, I can’t blame it on anyone else, but myself. Instead of saying ‘oh someone made this decision for me’ is all on my now. I really like the fact that you get more respect, people take you more seriously. But coming from Nigeria I won’t say freedom is really perk of being an adult, cause I’ve noticed that most Nigerians of this generation, but like 15/16, what most 18 year-olds do like going for parties and all that, most of them do much of those things already, so it’s not really much of big jump of being an adult. But I can tell that here, in the Uk, the jump for them would be a lot more.

AVD: In terms of financial responsibility, what do think about that with becoming an adult?

MA: Unlike when I was younger and didn’t have much pocket money so I didn’t have financial responsibilities but now my parents gave me a much bigger pocket, which I’m meant to use for like a whole term, which to be honest I haven’t used too wisely (he muses), but I’m trying my best. (He laughs) I feel like the older I get the more things will improve, I know the right thing to do: I’m supposed to have a savings account and a current account which I’m supposed to spend from, but I don’t have that yet, I’m still subject to spontaneous spending, so right now my financial responsibility isn’t at its best.

AVD: In terms of relationships, have there been any changes for you as you become an adult?

MA: Well the last relationship I actually really had was in my last year in secondary school, and my others were outside of school, but they were nothing really serious. I haven’t had a serious relationship before, I don’t think I’m cut out for that yet, I don’t think I’m mature enough.

AVD: With the current political and economic situation of Nigeria are you scared of becoming an adult in the emerging Nigeria?

MA: Yes. I’m scared cause I don’t want to get a really good degree and go back to Nigeria and not being able to get a good job. I also feel like I have to live up to my dad’s expectations, cause he told me that when he came out of university he had to struggle to get a good graduate job, so I feel like I have no excuse cause he didn’t have the good educational opportunities he has given me. Also, I can’t lie I’m partly driven by money, to be honest, I’m 100% driven by money (he laughs) so Nigeria’s economy has to improve abeg.

I also feel like I have to live up to my dad’s expectations, cause he told me that when he came out of university he had to struggle to get a good graduate job, so I feel like I have no excuse cause he didn’t have the good educational opportunities he has given me.

AVD: One last question. If you could go back in time and give younger you advice on becoming a young adult what advice would you give?

MA: Well if I could go back in time I would advise myself to shoot every shot no matter the consequences, in terms of girls I liked, things I didn’t pay attention to ‘cause I felt I wasn’t good enough for, cause you only live once.

AVD: Thanks so much man.

MA: No problem.

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