05 Dec Adulting with Natalie Carroll, Maddy Johnston and Vanessa Makuve.
AVD: Tiredness, responsibility and pressure. What do these means for you in terms of you becoming an adult?
NC: There’s an increase in everything
MJ: Yeah, the pressure is just more once you realise that next year we’ll all be in university and there’s no security blanket keeping you safe anymore. The responsibility of university is looming ahead as everyone is submitting and receiving university applications. It’s draining.
VM: I think that there are things that always exist but in childhood they’re a bit more contained and controlled but when you reach adulthood, they take on a life of their own and you have to learn how to control them yourself. It’s pretty scary.
AVD: What do you enjoy about being an adult?
NC: Making my own decisions, then if it goes wrong it’s on me, there is no one else to blame.
MJ: Being taken more seriously. I’m a 5ft small girl. I’ve experienced events that have matured me as a person and when you say you’re 18, more people seem actually listen to your views and values.
VM: Being able to make reasoned and informed decisions and being able to validate your opinions as people take you seriously.
Friends are one of the most important parts of your life. The memories you make during the time period are something that will last forever and will have a huge impact on your situation now. It’s great to have people who you know have your back, but you also need to value yourself and your opinions. In the end, it’s your life and you shouldn’t be persuaded to make choices solely on other people’s opinions.
VM: Obviously but I’m more scared about my own personal position in the world. Am I becoming increasingly more disadvantaged? There’s a lot I want to do in the world and I don’t want that to be extinguished by the events of the world going on.
MJ: It’s ridiculously surreal that we live in a world where people have voted for Trump as President. And for Brexit to have occurred when the younger generation (who it will affect the most), didn’t want it. But being scared isn’t going to fix anything. I’m taking all the opportunities I can. For example I’m going inter railing next summer before the consequences of Brexit do hit us all.
NC: I guess I’m scared for the wider pattern that humanity will be following as it is seemingly anti-world peace and increasingly more exclusive rather than inclusive. It’s okay for us now because we’re all shocked and appalled by this, we think this it’s wrong, but for people younger than us, they won’t have the then and the now. They’re not going to have that comparison of the different values. It’s not just scary, it makes you realise how grateful you are for your own situation. For example, being privileged, going to a good school you have more opportunities to better yourself or make your own opinion rather than being influenced by the general trends. You’re better informed to make your own decisions.
VM: I think that friends play a pivotal role in you becoming an adult. Their quirks and their tendencies can rub off on you and their advice can help you in making important life decisions. They’re like pillars of moral support and you need that during the changes you’re going through.
MJ: Friends are one of the most important parts of your life. The memories you make during the time period are something that will last forever and will have a huge impact on your situation now. It’s great to have people who you know have your back, but you also need to value yourself and your opinions. In the end, it’s your life and you shouldn’t be persuaded to make choices solely on other people’s opinions.
NC: I think friends are especially important when you’re going through change as you are going through similar experiences so they’re really able to support you but then they can still be your friends if they have differing opinions. If they give you advice, you don’t have to take it or feel guilty for not taking it
MJ: Yes definitely, it’s so important that you value yourself and your opinions. And the situation we’re in, we have the knowledge and capability to have an informed opinion, that you can truly believe in.
VM: Yeah they don’t make your decisions for you but they are important in helping you make them.
NC: Yeah but I guess you choose who you are friends with and who you want to spend your with time, so that is naturally going to alter where you draw that “line”
MJ: I would say, stand up for what you believe in. It may seem really scary and difficult at the time but you will regret what you didn’t say. Believe in yourself, because you are probably making the right decision and if it’s not then you will learn from your mistakes. It’s important to value yourself, especially in a relationship. But all those mistakes you make, make you a better person for overcoming them. You deserve to be happy, but your happiness doesn’t depend on anyone but yourself.
VM: That if you feel like doing something that’s against the status quo that you go for it. Because when you’re younger you’re quite encouraged, you feel like it’s a necessity to fit in with your friends but I think that’s part of adulthood, embracing the differences between people and this can bring people together. And to go for opportunities if you get them even if not everybody is doing it.